Well, I tore into it today. The dealer is the only place to get that gasket, $18 and it'll be here in the morning. Here's what it looks like from the top side:

Here's some noticeable damage on the inside of the bottom:

Here's a perplexing pile of what I assume is ash from unburned hydrocarbons:

This stuff fell out when flipped the cat over to unbolt the lower flange. There's a lot of it. Easily enough to fill the palm of my hand.
So, that could have easily been blocking flow. I used an air compressor to blow out any more of that stuff that I could. At least i was able to get this junk cleaned out of the cat..... maybe it was blocked and wont be as much now?
Here's hoping I can assemble it all with no leaks. I bought 4 new nuts ($1.20 each!) and I've got washers that'll work here already. I'll have to put some new SAE bolts in the lower flange after i back out the threaded studs.
I'll report back when I get some more data.
Thanks for the input.
B