The heat tab will likely be under the top timing cover. Loosen the valve cover bolts and remove the two bolts that hold the upper timing cover on. You will need to pull the valve cover up about a half inch in order to pull off the upper timing cover (it has a lip that goes under a lip on the valve cover). The heat tab will be a little bigger than a nickel and will have a dark gray "bull's eye" like center about half as big as the whole tab.
If the dark gray stuff is smeared or gone- it means that it has been overheated. Unless steam ever came out of the hood, it is likely OK.
The parts and machine shop work to do a head gasket will be about $80-$100 if you do the labor yourself. For a mechanic to do it right (he must check it for warpage) it will likely be $300-600 (that's my guess- I do all of my own mechanic work).